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Psychiatry 101 (Reply to this comment)
by bettega
This book details word for word the diagnostic criteria for "personality disorders" in the psycihatric reference DSM-IV.
This is a powerful book, and yes, the personality disorered are everywhere.
Just google "personality disorders" and you will be surprised by the smiliarity!
Kudos to the author in bringing the destructiveness of these personalities to the public forefront using less intimidating terms!
Ciao
Bettega
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Dec 26 '06
2:09 pm PST
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had fun with this (Reply to this comment)
by ktryathart1
My sister and I had fun IMing each other about your vampires. She just got divorced and lost her job. Told her to get this at the library to occupy her mind and zoo trips with her kids.
BJ
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May 31 '06
7:29 pm PDT
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Deja vu (Reply to this comment)
by adriennefoster
It sounds like this author knew one of my ex-boyfriends.
Adrienne
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Feb 10 '06
11:01 pm PST
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Re: Hmm (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Heh! I agree! It's such a gimme that I'm surprised he didn't think of it.
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Dec 09 '05
3:47 pm PST
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Hmm (Reply to this comment)
by ssjakira1
I've decided I like your title better, hehe.
NT
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Dec 07 '05
9:35 pm PST
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Re: A scary combination (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
My condolences, Kelley. Really. Hopefully recognizing what she is will help you deal with her better. (What's that old saying? Better the enemy that we know than the enemy we don't know?)
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Oct 19 '05
4:57 pm PDT
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A scary combination (Reply to this comment)
by kelleyj77
Great review. I appreciate the detail you provide. I just realized that my stepmother is a combination of the Histrionic and the Narcissistic vampire types. Very scary.
Thanks!
Kelley
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Oct 18 '05
11:53 am PDT
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Hi Grace (Reply to this comment)
by faithforever
I REALLY want to read this: YOUR Review was exceptional - Thanks for the recommendation. Gina
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Aug 28 '05
3:33 pm PDT
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Re: "match the vampire personality" (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Hehe. It's a harmless game as long as you don't share your answers. The odd part of emotional vampires is that many people who are being sucked dry by them won't believe it unless they come to the realization by themselves. Such is their magic, I suppose.
Glad you enjoyed the review!
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May 20 '05
5:51 am PDT
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Re: Wish I had this book 5 years ago! (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Just file the title away for future reference. I can hope that you won't run into another one, but the odds are against it! In the meantime, just pat yourself on the back for escaping the last one!
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May 01 '05
9:55 am PDT
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Wish I had this book 5 years ago! (Reply to this comment)
by colstudent69
I had an encounter a vampire myself and wish I had this book to help me realize it. Luckily I got away from that particular vampire!
Great book review, now I need to go back and rewrite all my book reviews :)
Brian
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Apr 29 '05
11:52 am PDT
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Re: This sounds like (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
I think you'll really enjoy it, and you'll probably find it useful as well. Let me know what you thought of it when you finish!
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Apr 18 '05
4:21 am PDT
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This sounds like (Reply to this comment)
by msmorvay
a very interesting book. I have to say that I really like the title of the book and your title to your review as well. I just may have to add this to my list of books that I want to read. Thank you for the excellent review.
Take care,
Rae
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Apr 17 '05
8:44 am PDT
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Re: My husband used to be married to an emotional vampire... (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Yikes! Poor man. Or lucky man. He now has you! :)
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Apr 05 '05
6:48 am PDT
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My husband used to be married to an emotional vampire... (Reply to this comment)
by knotheadusc
And now he has a sister in law who is one... sounds like a worthy addition to any library! Thanks for the write up!
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Apr 04 '05
11:39 am PDT
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Re: Well, I see a book opportunity here ... (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Yes, it does sound like a worthy project. I'm now reading a couple books that the school counselor read to see if they were appropriate for my daughter. Already, I can see that the first one isn't. She says she really doesn't know of any others, so if these don't fly, we're in deep trouble.
The parts that weren't exactly kid-appropriate were more rated PG-13. He's not very explicit, but it does show some scenarios that my daughter doesn't need to know about yet.
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Mar 28 '05
4:42 am PST
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Well, I see a book opportunity here ... (Reply to this comment)
by jrk
Grace, how about trying to write a children's version of the book, huh? Sounds like a worthy project to me.
I feel for your daughter going through her own emotional vampire experiences without the benefit of either experience or a book. At her age, I dealt with my fair share of those soul suckers, and all without a primer.
Glad I'm old enough to deal with the X-rated portions of Berstein's book, since this sounds like a good read.
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Mar 27 '05
8:49 pm PST
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Re: Re: Yeah, and you could say (Reply to this comment)
by imprimis2
Oh.
Well, maybe I ought to go to the library and see if they've got it. This sounds interesting, to say the least. I want to delve further into the details.
Thanks for clarifying,
=Aaron=
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Mar 27 '05
2:21 pm PST
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Re: Yeah, and you could say (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
I'm not so sure about that. He didn't separate glorymongers into their own distinct type. Glorymongers make me nutty because they're always accepting credit for things others do or exaggerating the value of their deeds (while hiding the underhanded or dishonest things they do). I guess people like that are narcissist / superstar / passive-aggressive.
I still think the classification is useful. It just requires that the reader stop and think carefully about what exactly the vampire is doing.
I think that you misunderstand my position on the advice in the book. In general, I think it's great, and I have noticed that many of the things that he suggests with certain personality types do indeed work. It's just a few bits of advice, particularly that for passive-aggressives, that don't work as well as I'd like.
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Mar 27 '05
5:22 am PST
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Yeah, and you could say (Reply to this comment)
by imprimis2
That the author of this book also probably became an OCV (Obsessive-Compulsive Vampire) just coming up with all the different types of "vampires".
While I do agree there are people who suck you dry and grate on you more than others, I'm not so sure this classification works all that well. As you pointed out, there seem to be flaws in his recognition and advice to other readers about what to do in the case of a PAV.
I think this book goes too far in terms of classifying people as different kinds of vampires--and if we all have tendencies to be one or the other at any given time, where do we draw the line between full blown vampire and just "partial" vampire?
This was an interesting read; but I'm assuming I believe the same way you do in this case: you have to treat it differently with each individual.
I'm going back to my corner and shove myself into the dark hole, since apparently I have a shade of all the vampire tendencies; some more than others. Grace, bring a LOT of garlic with you!
=Aaron=
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Mar 26 '05
12:46 pm PST
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Re: Ouch! (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Great! Hope it can help you with whatever vampire problems might be plaguing you!
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Mar 26 '05
4:43 am PST
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Ouch! (Reply to this comment)
by helen_b
Grace, this topic hits too close to home. I have heard about this book before, and now your review has convinced me to read it! You gave plenty of detail that just made me want more.
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Mar 25 '05
10:56 pm PST
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Re: Comment (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Sounds like you really need this book! He uses lots of workplace references, so you'll certainly take benefit from it.
Good luck!
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Mar 25 '05
3:58 am PST
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Comment (Reply to this comment)
by dragonfire88
This book sounds very interesting. Some of the descriptions you gave sound just like this one person I have to work with. That person has caused so much trouble in the office. It is very frustrating to have to deal with that person, maybe this book would give me some insight.
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Mar 24 '05
6:12 pm PST
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Re: Re: Re: intriguing book (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
You poor woman. No one should have to live with someone like that! Don't get me started!
Let me know what you think when you're done reading!
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Mar 24 '05
2:23 pm PST
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Re: Re: intriguing book (Reply to this comment)
by dramastef,  in Books
I've put this on hold at my library. I was married to a passive-agressive vamp for years, and am still trying to deal with a lot of leftover angst.
Wonderful review!
~Stefanie
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Mar 24 '05
9:38 am PST
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Re: Monitor head banging defined... (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Ah yes, Mr. Tomato. You would certainly enjoy this book, and I'm sure you would have a lovely time matching your favorite (?) folks to the various vampire types.
As an added bonus, if you keep a paperback copy of this book next to your computer, then you will have something softer to hit when you get frustrated!
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Mar 23 '05
7:58 am PST
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Re: intriguing book (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Passive-aggressive people tend to believe that all of their actions are good, honest, and helpful. While others see their actions as self-serving or attacking, the passive-aggressive will never admit to it. Instead, they live in some alternate reality where they are much loved by all and anyone who doesn't is mean and nasty and just downright wrong. Passive-aggressives also believe that every action that they do (and they do lots of them because they want to prove how perfect and good they are) should receive a favorable response in return. If they don't get that response, they will show their anger in subtle ways that, if called on it, they pass off as just a huge misunderstanding on the part of the other person. After all, they are good. Anyone who doesn't see that is bad.
All of the descriptions that I gave of the various types are shallow compared to the depth of detail in the book. The writer goes on for pages! It's really hard to encapsulate all of that in a short format. That's why you need to read the book! :)
Hope that helps.
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Mar 23 '05
7:55 am PST
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Re: Leave it to you.... (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Hey stranger! You've been gone for awhile! Welcome back.
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Mar 23 '05
7:42 am PST
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Re: Hmmmm... (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Well, if the author is right in that almost everyone has some tendencies, I suspect that the probability that everyone has met one is pretty high. :)
Let me know what you think of it! (Better yet, write your own review!)
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Mar 23 '05
7:41 am PST
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